Any way you use it, Should Have is a dangerous term.
Should Have was invented by Father Mischief, Who wears white collar. He liked to throw the lethal phrase into the conversation And watch everyone scramble to change the past, Which isn’t possible.
He chuckled at having invented the necessity for redemption.
He got the greatest hoot to see the lamenting over That which had been “Good” — until “should have” was spoken.
Nowadays, If you own a nasty streak, Throw a “should have” at someone and Watch them WITHER . . . or BRISTLE.
One way, “should have” creates guilt, sorrow, and moaning. The other way, “should have” generates anger, upset, and resentment.
Either Way, It’s wicked interesting to watch a human’s emotional body Respond to its own imaginary suppositions About concealed accusations Regarding no-longer-existing actions Impossible to rectify.
What’s the point?
Just cut out the SHOULD HAVE, Baby Love. Don’t even use it on yourself.